Being single is not a death sentence...

Why is it that people assume that when someone is single that they must be depressed? I don't get this, it's like they can't even fathom that maybe I choose to be single right now. I am very happy with who I am and I am ok with being single. Even if I maybe never get married or have kids... that's ok. I'm not saying I don't want these things but rather, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't.

But yet, I can't go to a party without someone asking are you married? 'No'. Are you seeing anyone? 'No'. Which seem like harmless questions and they are when they aren't followed with 'well that's okay' or 'don't worry, you'll find someone'. Yeah, thanks for your back-handed compliment, but I'm really ok, and not all that worried about it. Just because you have someone doesn't mean that you will live happily ever after.

I've had a few serious relationships, hell, I was engaged at one point, but I'm not going to settle. I know myself very well now and I know what I can and cannot compromise on, and I'm not going to settle for anything less. I deserve something great, when and if it comes my way I'll know it. My standards aren't high, they are quite attainable but I will never be in a relationship longer than it's shelf life because I am afraid to be alone. Main reason being - I'm not afraid to be alone.

I almost feel sorry for some of the people I know that when their husband goes out of town they want a friend to come over and stay the night because they are too afraid to be by themselves. I don't understand this. Now some nay sayers might say ' she's never been in love', oh yes I have. But I feel even in the best of relationships, people need their space. I enjoy being alone with my thoughts sometimes, or taking that opportunity to read a book, or watch the sunset, or even take a nap.

So in short, if you run across someone and you ask if they are seeing anyone and they say 'No' don't feel sorry for them, just smile and ask what they've been up to!