Why is it that people assume that when someone is single that they must be depressed? I don't get this, it's like they can't even fathom that maybe I choose to be single right now. I am very happy with who I am and I am ok with being single. Even if I maybe never get married or have kids... that's ok. I'm not saying I don't want these things but rather, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't.
But yet, I can't go to a party without someone asking are you married? 'No'. Are you seeing anyone? 'No'. Which seem like harmless questions and they are when they aren't followed with 'well that's okay' or 'don't worry, you'll find someone'. Yeah, thanks for your back-handed compliment, but I'm really ok, and not all that worried about it. Just because you have someone doesn't mean that you will live happily ever after.
I've had a few serious relationships, hell, I was engaged at one point, but I'm not going to settle. I know myself very well now and I know what I can and cannot compromise on, and I'm not going to settle for anything less. I deserve something great, when and if it comes my way I'll know it. My standards aren't high, they are quite attainable but I will never be in a relationship longer than it's shelf life because I am afraid to be alone. Main reason being - I'm not afraid to be alone.
I almost feel sorry for some of the people I know that when their husband goes out of town they want a friend to come over and stay the night because they are too afraid to be by themselves. I don't understand this. Now some nay sayers might say ' she's never been in love', oh yes I have. But I feel even in the best of relationships, people need their space. I enjoy being alone with my thoughts sometimes, or taking that opportunity to read a book, or watch the sunset, or even take a nap.
So in short, if you run across someone and you ask if they are seeing anyone and they say 'No' don't feel sorry for them, just smile and ask what they've been up to!
Friday, June 26, 2009
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Profound
A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package:
'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.'
He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.
'She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on , was saving it for a special occasion.. Well, I guess this is it. He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died. He turned to me and said:
'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion'.
I still think those words changed my life.
Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend more time with my family, and less at work..
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day... I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if i feel like it.
I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to. The words 'Someday...' and ' One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now.. I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends. She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels.. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come.
Each day, each hour, each minute, is special. Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.
'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.'
He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.
'She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on , was saving it for a special occasion.. Well, I guess this is it. He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died. He turned to me and said:
'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion'.
I still think those words changed my life.
Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend more time with my family, and less at work..
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day... I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if i feel like it.
I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to. The words 'Someday...' and ' One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now.. I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends. She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels.. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come.
Each day, each hour, each minute, is special. Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one.
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